By Moyinoluwa Okunloye
A while ago, I was having a chat with my friend and we were going on and on about plans and the many things we had to do for the week. Just talking about it was so overwhelming that he had to acknowledge how packed the week was going to be. And right then, I said, “One day at a time. Don’t look farther than today.”
Now that’s not me. I do not think like that. I plan. I love to have a map. I do not like chaos neither do I allow myself to be in any complicated situations. I lay out my clothes for the next day, I already have an idea of what I would do at work on Monday from the close of business of Friday. I have a bed time and usually, I keep to it (which means if my phone rings after my bed time, I might not pick). Because I am usually the one to feel overwhelmed by my many plans and seemingly organised life, it was difficult to comprehend that I had said what I said. It was totally out of line for me. It was counter -intuitive of who I am and who I have been raised to be. But it is true.
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I am starting to learn that it is ok not to have Friday figured out from Monday (h***, it’s ok not to have Sunday figured out from Saturday night). I am starting to understand that there is nothing wrong with me when I seem to have no clue about certain things that concerns me. It’s beginning to dawn on me that it is not bad to sometimes go against intuition and throw the rule – book away to just breathe and smell fresh air.
Sometimes acknowledging that I don’t have it all figured out is actually the clue that I need to figure it all out. Sometimes, stopping to breath is all I need to gain the right perspective and at times, saying it out (like I did to my friend) is what I need to remind myself that it’s ok to just focus on today.
One day at a time, Baby ………………… Don’t look farther than today.
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