Listen up, Bully! (1)

In this series, people (mostly me, my friends and close associates) are writing letters to certain individuals in our lives who have in one way or the other hurt us or cause us grieve. This is not a pity party but an avenue to speak up, take back the power and free ourselves of whatever…

COVID-19LockdownChronicles: A love like my Grandparents’

By Moyinoluwa Okunloye I have never ceased to think about my Grandpa. He was wonderful, full of life and ever so generous. I may be biased because I am his favourite grand – child, but I think he was respected by many. He was a hardworker, never complained and I never saw him poor. Now,…

COVID-19LockdownChronicles: The Assurance

By Moyinoluwa Okunloye My pal asked me yesterday, “Is there really panic everywhere?” Don’t crucify him, it is a valid question. Valid because the concept of how difficult this period is is not entirely getting to us. We make a deliberate effort not to listen too much to the daily increase in the numbers of…

COVID19LockdownChronicles: Gratitude

By Moyinoluwa Okunloye This year is already spent. We’ve had a whole 12 months only in three months. We’ve been through it all and still going through it. And now, it feels like the apocalypse. I am sitting on my bed, exercising by taking walks from my room to the sitting room and back, for…

My Reward

In 2017, I was at a vulnerable group meeting (similitude of an Alcoholic Anonymous meeting) and as we went round, each introducing him/herself and sharing something about the pain/experiences that had brought us to such meeting, I caught myself utter a statement as I shared of myself. That was not the first time for me…

From one addict to another: Seeking validation from others

I always wanted to be agreeable. Not necessarily because I wanted to be popular but merely as a source of satisfaction.  I wanted to be liked; to be perceived as admirable. And so, I would be in a gathering of young people like myself, but rather than be me, I’d be thinking of how best to conform, look and feel like a part of them.

Unusual Peace

By Moyinoluwa Okunloye As I open my laptop to write this, I check my heart to confirm if the reason for this piece is still there. I try to check if I can tie this feeling of Joy to a thing or an occurrence that would warrant me to feel this glow that I have…